Little Lisa

1985

"Oh, little Lisa. We always wondered what happened to you!"

In 1985, at the urging of her husband, Phil, to find out medical history six months into her pregnancy, Lisa placed a cold call wondering if this could be her birth father's family. Indeed it was—well, almost.  

Aunt "Tricia" answered the call. Carefully choosing her words, Lisa asked for "Robert" to see if he was the brother of her "father" shown on her birth hospital records.  Lisa asked if she knew "Tom" and "Sarah"  [names changed]. Tricia confirmed that "Tom" was her brother-in-law and excitedly stated, ""Oh, little Lisa. We always wondered what happened to you!" With happy tears, Lisa realized that someone knew her as a baby and might know her story. 

A revelation was revealed during that call. Lisa learned that the man who was "her mother's husband at the time of her birth" was most likely not her biological father, but Tricia believed she knew who he was. She did. And he was. And that, is its own long story.

Lisa was the fourth child born to then 19-year-old, Sarah. Yes, Sarah started young. At some point, when Lisa was under two, Sarah, went to the corner store and NEVER RETURNED. According to Uncle "Steve" who came over for a scheduled visit, Sarah was nowhere in sight. He heard splashing in the bathroom and went to check. He found the two youngest in the tub and little Lisa under the water. His timing was impeccable! He pulled little Lisa by her hair out from under the water. And so the story begins.

Tom knowing that he could not take care of these four little ones put them into foster care and tearfully signed away his parental rights. Lisa was placed with a foster family on the first day. Life was good.

Twenty-five years later, when Lisa met the oldest child from her birth family, he told her that his  6-year-old self was not allowed to say goodbye to her. He could only watch out the window. "They took you away in a Volkswagon bug and I stood there waving and crying." It was a lasting impression on the little boy. 

When the social worker held Lisa's hand and began to walk up the sidewalk to the front door she bent over and said, "there's your new mom." Lisa's mom, Shirlee, was standing on the porch smiling. The vivid memory of seeing her new mom for the first time lasted for many years.

Lisa's sister-in-law was dating her oldest brother at that time and remembers little Lisa  always crying for her "dolly."  Lisa discovered 25 years later that her "dolly" was actually her 11-month older sister named Dolly.

At the age of seven, another family had started paperwork to adopt young Lisa. Lisa's mom said, "If she goes, I go." At that time, Joe and Shirlee began their own adoption paperwork. 

Lisa remembers being in a court room for the adoption. The judge took her into his office to ask her questions about life with her prospective adopted family. He asked her specifically if she wanted them to be her legal family. 

She did. And they were. 

Lisa found all of the members of her biological family and has relationships with them.

Another long, long story.

There is so much more to this story, but we'll stop here. 

These experiences have shaped Lisa's life. She treasures her family and loves serving others. And, she is happy to live and have lived life that she has never been in court as the subject of a hearing again.